It’s great to be more aware of how you’re experiencing life and how you’re showing up. It’s important to identify your fears so you can move through them. It’s helpful to see you can make different choices that better support you and your goals. But if you don’t stop to assess what it is you really want in life, making sustainable changes that help you create your days in a different way isn’t really possible.
When you work in healthcare where lives are on the line and people depend on you to help them get better, it’s pretty common to develop an expertise for coping with whatever comes your way. And when we master a tool like coping and being able to make things work no matter what, it can become the predominant way we approach everything.
There’s an upside to this, of course. The downside is that it can lead to settling for things as is and feeling like good enough is the best you can have instead of creating your best life. There is nothing wrong with a “good enough” life, but if you can be, do, and have more, why not go for it?
So, what is it you really want in your life right now?
Start by taking a look at the main areas of your life that matter to you such as relationships, professional life, physical and emotional well-being, finances, fun and enjoyment, romance – jot those down. Now, ask yourself, how satisfied are you with each of the areas you noted? Scale it from 1-10 with 1 being least satisfied and 10 being most. For areas you assessed at 7 or below, ask yourself the following questions:
- What’s missing that would move you up to an 8 or higher?
- What is one action you can choose to take this week that would shift one area up at least one point closer to 10?
- How will you benefit from taking that action?
Successful, sustainable change happens by making small, consistent changes over time. Identify one thing you really want to improve for 1 week and make it happen. You can return to your list over and over, week by week, taking one item at a time and making one change, then reassess in 30 days.
When you are aware of what you value now at this point in your life, it helps you to:
- Motivate yourself to make the changes you choose.
- Make choices and decisions more quickly and with greater clarity.
- Easily identify what is or isn’t serving you and the goals you have.
- Set and maintain priorities.
Please be sure you post any questions or challenges you have throughout this series so I can provide support, insights, and solutions for you.