I suspect it’s happened to each of us at least once in our lives: that time when we are so overcome with emotion that we break down in tears. Not the kind that you get from watching a sad movie or a minor bout of the blues. I’m talking about the kind of tears that seem to well up from deep inside, almost catching you off your guard. Is there something about this sort of crying that can make it not just therapeutic for one’s soul, but beneficial for the body as well?
In a 2010 blog on the Huffington Post, Dr. Judith Orloff discusses research conducted by Dr. William Frey, which showed that tears produced from crying differed from the tears the eye produces to provide lubrication. Shedding emotional tears not only gives the body a physical release; it also helps excrete toxins and stress hormones. Additionally, crying produces endorphins, the body’s natural pain medication.
What does this mean for us as oncology nurses? We’ve probably all known patients who were frightened and overwhelmed, yet trying so hard not to betray their emotions. Letting patients know that it is not only OK but healthy to cry may help them to process everything that’s happening to them and help them let go of some of the stress they’ve pent up inside. Holding on to those feelings is unhealthy, not only for the patient’s physical health but psychological health as well.
This information has implications for nurses as well. We see so much tragedy and pain as oncology nurses. Sometimes we can fall into the habit of feeling as if we have to soldier on, denying our own grief over the young mother who died from breast cancer or the death of a patient who became special to us. We see a good deal of sadness in our work; it’s by acknowledging those feelings that we remain strong enough to go back and face another day.
Crying isn’t just a normal thing to do; it looks as though it’s a healthy thing to do as well. How do you let out your frustration?